” or “Give an example from your own life where a relationship succeeded because of (or a series of) conversation(s)”.
The following paper is a response to the latter: After reading and reflecting on the first two chapters of Fierce Conversations, I have come to realize that it is difficult for me to recall particular conversations I have had that I can genuinely categorize as “fierce,” because I do not think I have had many.
Although I have not had many of these kinds of conversations, there is one example that immediately comes to mind that has had a tremendously positive impact on my relationship with my younger sister.
This specific conversation took place over a year ago and paved the way for future “fierce” and successful conversations.
We knew how to have a great time together, but as soon as a problem arose successful communication between us broke down.
Furthermore, while at the time I would have said we were “close” we didn’t share much with each other in the way of emotion, especially when it came to how we felt about each other. My family was on vacation visiting our extended family in New Jersey, and on the particular night that our fierce conversation took place my sister and I were spending the night at my aunt’s empty house while our parents were at our grandparent’s house.My sister and I were jet lagged so we stayed up late talking on the couch.The conversation eventually came around to the topic of school (at the time my sister was taking a semester off from college).Even as I’m comfortable with what little income I have now, I know that I possibly want to have a family in the future, and in order to do that I’ll need to have a sizable income to support one.This means that even now I need to think about what kind of job I’ll have, what kind of income I want to make, whether or not this is a realistic goal, etc.However, I guess all I can do now is plan ahead and work hard so that, when it is time for me to gain the future I want, I won’t be caught off guard.——————————————————————————————————————— 2/29 Reflection Paper 3 After learning about the 24 character strengths and virtues, we had to answer the question “Do you think it is more important for you to build those of your character strengths that are relatively weak versus purposefully using your ‘strongest’ strengths?I specifically remember my sister looking at me and saying, “It’s so nice to be able to talk to you like this.” That night we both promised one another that we would have more conversations like this; conversations in which we actually said what was on our minds, and conversations in which we actually listened to what each other had to say. ” Who or what has been a key influence on your attitudes about and use of money?——————————————————————————————————————— 2/24 Reflection Paper 2 For Reflection Paper 2, we chose to answer the question “Thinking about your own life, where do you see connections between your health and your happiness? ” The following paper is a response to the latter: Money takes a rather unimportant role in my life.After both of our initial emotional outpouring of “ground truth” confessions we began to help each other sort out and address our respective problems and what we were going to actually do to solve them.At that point my sister did not reach a final solution to what she was going to do about college but we both agreed that it would no longer be an off-limits topic between us.